That Crazy sweet Feeling Called Love

Love!!!

To fall in love is an amazing thing that anyone who is caught into feel excited and terrified. Why? Falling in love with someone is something scary because, for the most part, it is completely out of your control. The heart wants what the heart wants. 

It is also possible to fall in love with a person and have no idea why you fell in love with them in the first place. Your subconscious is responsible.

This is why love is such a “mysterious phenomenon” and many people put it all down to their own personal destiny. But in reality, it has nothing to do with fate, it was all related to your subconscious, which was quietly figuring out whether the person matches your checklist or not. The truth of the matter is that if you’re able to grow more aware of your subconscious mind’s specific criteria, you’ll be able to quickly determine why you fall for some people and not for others. (John Alex Clark)

Falling in love is a glorious and crazy feeling that worth experiencing in our lives.

 

 

According to Helen Fisher, anthropologist from Rutgers University, when you fall in love, the levels of dopamine in the brain increase due to the increased blood flow to the regions where the receptors of dopamine are present. Dopamine, a pleasure chemical, makes you more excited, energetic and full of life. 

Do you believe in love at first sight? That the moment you  set your eyes to him/her, you feel you have butterflies in your stomach that you feel fluttering.  You feel very nervous due to the release of adrenalin by your body, according to some scientist.

But don’t you know that the best kind of love is one where two friends understand each other and fall in love gradually.  Ohh, sooo sweet crazy feeling

 

 

 

“Partners who are similar in broad dispositions, like personality, are more likely to feel the same way in their day-to-day lives,” said Gian Gonzaga, lead author of a study of couples who met on eHarmony. “This may make it easier for partners to understand each other.”

When do you know you fall in love? When the way you look at the world and experience life can change in a moment.

When do you know you  fall  in love? When you find time goes by in a fast forward, how you wish that there will be a pause button on life to freeze in a perfect moment and  stay forever.

When do you know you fall in love? When your lover tirelessly running around your mind that makes you out of focus on other interests or failed to remember other things. This is due to norepinephrine, a chemical compound that gets released along with dopamine, in the brain.

 

When do you know you fall in love? When you sit in silence with your lover and  feel like it’s the best conversation that you’ve ever had. Sometimes, the most meaningful things are found through silence.

When do you know that you fall in love? When you find yourself kissing pillows, full of happiness,jumping up and down in excitement and joy for no apparent reason, make you feel sleepless, restless,  and make you think about your lover, a lot. That’s just like an intense burst of dopamine,  a pleasure chemical, makes you more excited, energetic and full of life.

When do you know that you fall in love? When you look at each other’s eyes for two minutes or more increased  the feelings of passionate love and affection towards the other person. Eye contact can connect you to someone and even ignite feelings of love inside you for that person you have never previously met, according to Scientific American  Reports. (businessinsider.com)

When do you know that you fall in love?  When you  are both easily get upset even the smallest of things but trying to please each other with little acts of love and affection. While each act of love increases the love and attraction, each disappointment makes you more vulnerable to pain and depression. (Little Things In Love)

To Fall In Love Is Easy But To Stay In Love Is Hard..

Emotions, especially love, passion and happiness, are our strongest motivators because we will do anything to maintain them.

However, we often didn’t realize that such thing never lasts. Falling in love might last for a couple of months or sometimes, it can last for a couple of years.

We are often blinded by the illusion that everything good is infinite and invincible. Once  the feeling faded and reality sinks, it gets a little tricky.

Falling in love with someone, and staying in love with someone are two completely different experiences. Falling in love isn’t a choice; it’s an irrational chain of events that simply cannot be controlled. It’s easy to fall in love with somebody for all their good qualities: they’re smart, sexy, funny.

Falling in love is unfortunately, just like a drug, it doesn’t really last forever. While the levels of chemicals  like dopamine and serotonin gradually come back to normal after a few months or years depending on the type of relationship, it’s up to the lovers to find ways to keep the excitement in love alive. (Chemistry in Love)

While most people believe it was love right from the beginning, falling in love actually begins with a note of lust and sexual excitement along with the flutter of love. (lovepanky.com)

Staying in love is the difficult part. Everyday is your choice. There is  this  wonderful quote: “No one falls in love by choice, it is by chance. No one stays in love by chance, it is by work. And no one falls out of love by chance, it is by choice.”  

One day, you found out that the person you fell in love with is imperfect. Your relationship run into problems. But if you want to stay in love,and if you really truly love your lover and vice versa, commit to that love and plan on it being hard work. Real love is an unconditional commitment to an imperfect person.  This is the true definition of loving someone, to love those imperfections as wholly and completely as you love the good.

With the  evolution and the hormone oxytocin though, have found a way to make lovers seek commitment and make couples fall in love forever. It has created stages in love, and all these experiences are just one single stage in the process of falling in love.

 

Falling in love is exciting, with growing passion and the intensity of discovering the one you love. But intensity is not the same as intimacy, and intimacy takes courage and work. It is the simple daily interactions and service that maintain, strengthen, and grow love into something solid and good. C.S. Lewis said, “Being in love first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise.” (familyshare.com)

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Actions speaks louder than words 

Are you aware of your body language when communicating with others? Are you conscious of your body posture, gestures, facial expressions, and eye movements?

 

It’s hard to have an eye contact when you are not interested to someone.

 

Sources:

elitedaily.com

familyshare.com